If dating is getting to know someone to see if there could potentially be a relationship in the future...............this could be done with more than one person. Actually, dating is probably best when there are multiple people. That way you don't get all caught up in one person.....
Dating does not equate with sex.....you can date many people and be sleeping with none, one, or all....
Then exclusively dating means just seeing one person, to see if there is potential for a relationship.....but how is exclusively dating different from the relationship? What is done differently or isn't important when you're exclusively dating versus being in a relationship? Aren't the expectations the same? Actually exclusively dating is like a mini relationship, like a trial run to see if this will work or not.......provides you with an out, so when you find out 3 months down the line the s/he has a hidden drug addiction, you can just leave and say "well we weren't together anyway!"
There may be subtle differences that are hard to verbalize, I guess.....like there are subtle differences when two people have been together for forever, been cohabitation for forever, then they finally get married............despite all the legal ramifications, there still are subtle differences in the relationship........
So when I'm exclusively dating a guy, is it wrong for me to allow another man to take me out? Why? we're just dating, I don't have a commitment..........and so if he finds out and gets mad, what? Do we break up? No cause we're not in a relationship, do we just stop "dating?"........
Also, what do I say to someone who approaches me and has interest in me and asks "are you single?"
Essentially I am but what do I say? ".................ummmm I'm seeing someone? I'm dating someone?" but I am still single.................if I'm gonna take myself off the market, it'll be for something...........but exclusively dating isn't enough............
*note to self, don't exclusively date!
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