I was all hype to be going down to Myrtle Beach for Memorial Day weekend, jumping on the back of some fine dudes motorcycle. However, I was just informed from someone who's frequented Myrtle Beach for Memorial Day for the past 10 years that this year they are requiring riders to wear helmets............
Well generally riders are cruising at a slow speed, so a helmet seems ridiculous. And now with riders wearing helmets a female can't see what the dude on the bike looks like unless he takes his helmet off! And how bold is this?:
"Aye shawty! you wanna ride"
"ummm yeah can you take your helmet off?"
Dude takes off helmet and she thinks.....'hot damn this negro if fugly'
"on second thought, I'm scared of motorcycles, never mind"
I don't know about you but i'm not trying to be in that situation!
Since every rider needs a helmet, what happens when non-bike owing heffa's like myself are approached to ride?
Well clearly I'm not buying a helmet, and I am surely not trying to accesorize my outfit with a helmet! So then the bike riding dudes need to have an extra helmet for my fly ass..........but wait a min....how many other heffa's put their damn head in this shit....not trying to catch LICE! (yes, black folks can get lice! But I'm not black anyway! joking)....WTF are weave/ponytail/wig wearing heffa's gonna do? sheeeeee-it I'm not messing my do up for a bike ride! NO SIR!
Lastly, who wants to put a helmet on in 90 degree weather?........no me! I'm trying to stay so fresh, so clean!
I dunno about this trip...............................
Thursday, April 30, 2009
The Adventures of Dating ME!
Youngin..............No, no, no, no, no, no.
Duh! What was I thinking?
.............way too much going on with him! Drama!
Anyway i'm getting a little discouraged here! Thinking about taking a hiatus from the dating game and pressing the pause button!
(Smerking with my fingers crossed behind my back! He He He)
Duh! What was I thinking?
.............way too much going on with him! Drama!
Anyway i'm getting a little discouraged here! Thinking about taking a hiatus from the dating game and pressing the pause button!
(Smerking with my fingers crossed behind my back! He He He)
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
HOMO or NO HOMO that is the question
So lately there has been lots of talk about homosexuality, from Miss California's anti gay marriage comments, to Bow Wow's comments of not liking to be around gay stylist and hair dressers. There are a lot of opinions, misconceptions, and just plan ole bad attitudes about the subject so I decided to write about it.
One of my dear friends happens to be lesbian. I have been an advid GLBT supporter for quite some time and I am heterosexual. I've kinda perfected my little rant about homosexuals and their civil rights, at least that's how I feel. Here are my main points.
1. Homosexual people are generally attracted to other homosexuals. Dude just because the man is gay and he's standing next to you doesn't mean he wants you. You are way to full of yourself. Homosexuals have types and preferences too. Just like heterosexuals have types and preference, and generally heterosexuals are attracted to other heterosexuals. So don't fool yourself a gay man doesn't want you just because you are a man! Same applies to gay women!
2. Listen, if you believe that marriage should only be between a man and a woman, that's fine, that's what you believe. But don't start imposing your shit on to others. We are all entitled to our opinions, but they are just that, opinions. The problem arises when we force our stuff down the throats of others. How would you like it if I said that college should only be for offspring of single black mothers? That wouldn't be fair to my Caucasian (or......insert race here) counterparts now would that? The point is when we try to force others to comply with what we think we cause problems. Remember the anti-miscegenation laws where it was illegal to marry outside one's race? That hateful shit was created based on the thoughts, opinions, and beliefs of other people. I think it's safe to say that probably wasn't cool. So what's the difference here?
3. Christianity was created from the following and teachings of Christ. Christ never condemned anyone. Why? Because only God can judge. Jesus treated everyone, friend and foe the same. No matter how he was treated by others he was loving, understanding, and caring towards them. So if the goal of Christianity is to be Christ like, then why are people so quick to jump and judge someone? I mean WWJD is real question people, not just a marketing fad!
Also, lets remember that one sin isn't greater than another. So while you all trying to cast homosexuals into fire and brimstone remember you might not be to far behind because at some point you lied, coveted, stole, had pre-marital sex (oh lawd!), and the list goes on and on.
Remember Christians, we are responsible for our actions towards others. When we deny someone food, shelter, compassion, we might as well be denying Jesus those things as well. I am not a bible pro by no means but I do recall a conversation of some sort where Jesus or God was speaking to someone saying that when he was hungry they didn't feed him, when he needed shelter they didn't house him, and so on. And the person Jesus/God was speaking to was astonished and asked, when did I deny you of those things? And the reply was when you denied your brother (as in fellow human being) you denied me. Go figure!
Just live your life, treat others as you would want to be treated, and leave the judging to GOD!
4. Marriage is a business agreement (marriage contract) between two people that come with benefits. Also, if there are emotions involved there are tons of physical and mental benefits to it as well. If you attribute a spiritual meaning to it that's awesome. But everyone isn't you. People of other religions get married every day. I don't see why people are so against homosexuals getting married, it's not your marriage, so WTF? You can't control the emotions of others, so if George and Bob love each other, they love each other. But why would you deny them some of the perks of marriage. Do your research!!
If two people are married and one is dying in the hospital, that spouse doesn't have to ask anyone permission to visit them in the hospital. That spouse doesn't need to ask permission to continue to reside in the home that they have built together. That spouse doesn't need to battle with anyone as to how things will be done or taken care of.
However, since "gay marriage" isn't recognized if two gay people who have been together for 20 years (ya'll that's longer than some of your damn parents!) they don't get the same benefits. George doesn't have the RIGHT to visit Bob in the hospital. If the family says no then he can't. If Bob dies, then the house that he and George have built together doesn't belong to George (unless his name is on the mortgage, but for whatever reason we know that sometimes one person's credit is f-ed up or maybe George moved into Bob's home 20 yrs ago, whatever) and George may become homeless. And those things that the lovely couple has accumulated over the past 20 years, if they are in that house George can't live in anymore, George has no say as to what happens to them. So the lovely memorabilia they collected from their trip to Europe can be tossed out like yesterday's trash if the family deems so.
I don't care who you are, but that shit isn't fair! Let's not forget the tax benefits, and health insurance. Why would you want to deny someone these things just because you don't agree with who they like to sleep with.
Sooooo, if I don't agree with the fact that you like to give cunnilingus a little too often, or you like to use Durex over Trojan, does that mean I can deny you some things? Hell no....
So in the end, believe what you believe about homosexuality and gay marriage, but let it just be a belief, don't go all Willie Nille and try to condemn, judge, or deny people their basic human rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.
One of my dear friends happens to be lesbian. I have been an advid GLBT supporter for quite some time and I am heterosexual. I've kinda perfected my little rant about homosexuals and their civil rights, at least that's how I feel. Here are my main points.
1. Homosexual people are generally attracted to other homosexuals. Dude just because the man is gay and he's standing next to you doesn't mean he wants you. You are way to full of yourself. Homosexuals have types and preferences too. Just like heterosexuals have types and preference, and generally heterosexuals are attracted to other heterosexuals. So don't fool yourself a gay man doesn't want you just because you are a man! Same applies to gay women!
2. Listen, if you believe that marriage should only be between a man and a woman, that's fine, that's what you believe. But don't start imposing your shit on to others. We are all entitled to our opinions, but they are just that, opinions. The problem arises when we force our stuff down the throats of others. How would you like it if I said that college should only be for offspring of single black mothers? That wouldn't be fair to my Caucasian (or......insert race here) counterparts now would that? The point is when we try to force others to comply with what we think we cause problems. Remember the anti-miscegenation laws where it was illegal to marry outside one's race? That hateful shit was created based on the thoughts, opinions, and beliefs of other people. I think it's safe to say that probably wasn't cool. So what's the difference here?
3. Christianity was created from the following and teachings of Christ. Christ never condemned anyone. Why? Because only God can judge. Jesus treated everyone, friend and foe the same. No matter how he was treated by others he was loving, understanding, and caring towards them. So if the goal of Christianity is to be Christ like, then why are people so quick to jump and judge someone? I mean WWJD is real question people, not just a marketing fad!
Also, lets remember that one sin isn't greater than another. So while you all trying to cast homosexuals into fire and brimstone remember you might not be to far behind because at some point you lied, coveted, stole, had pre-marital sex (oh lawd!), and the list goes on and on.
Remember Christians, we are responsible for our actions towards others. When we deny someone food, shelter, compassion, we might as well be denying Jesus those things as well. I am not a bible pro by no means but I do recall a conversation of some sort where Jesus or God was speaking to someone saying that when he was hungry they didn't feed him, when he needed shelter they didn't house him, and so on. And the person Jesus/God was speaking to was astonished and asked, when did I deny you of those things? And the reply was when you denied your brother (as in fellow human being) you denied me. Go figure!
Just live your life, treat others as you would want to be treated, and leave the judging to GOD!
4. Marriage is a business agreement (marriage contract) between two people that come with benefits. Also, if there are emotions involved there are tons of physical and mental benefits to it as well. If you attribute a spiritual meaning to it that's awesome. But everyone isn't you. People of other religions get married every day. I don't see why people are so against homosexuals getting married, it's not your marriage, so WTF? You can't control the emotions of others, so if George and Bob love each other, they love each other. But why would you deny them some of the perks of marriage. Do your research!!
If two people are married and one is dying in the hospital, that spouse doesn't have to ask anyone permission to visit them in the hospital. That spouse doesn't need to ask permission to continue to reside in the home that they have built together. That spouse doesn't need to battle with anyone as to how things will be done or taken care of.
However, since "gay marriage" isn't recognized if two gay people who have been together for 20 years (ya'll that's longer than some of your damn parents!) they don't get the same benefits. George doesn't have the RIGHT to visit Bob in the hospital. If the family says no then he can't. If Bob dies, then the house that he and George have built together doesn't belong to George (unless his name is on the mortgage, but for whatever reason we know that sometimes one person's credit is f-ed up or maybe George moved into Bob's home 20 yrs ago, whatever) and George may become homeless. And those things that the lovely couple has accumulated over the past 20 years, if they are in that house George can't live in anymore, George has no say as to what happens to them. So the lovely memorabilia they collected from their trip to Europe can be tossed out like yesterday's trash if the family deems so.
I don't care who you are, but that shit isn't fair! Let's not forget the tax benefits, and health insurance. Why would you want to deny someone these things just because you don't agree with who they like to sleep with.
Sooooo, if I don't agree with the fact that you like to give cunnilingus a little too often, or you like to use Durex over Trojan, does that mean I can deny you some things? Hell no....
So in the end, believe what you believe about homosexuality and gay marriage, but let it just be a belief, don't go all Willie Nille and try to condemn, judge, or deny people their basic human rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.
Thursday, April 23, 2009
A moment of silence for MELVIN CHERRY
Just an FYI his funeral/wake is tomorrow beginning at 10am. I'll be attending. I'm a little scared as I don't do funerals. I spoke to his mother last week and she stated that his daughter was dedicated to the Lord on Easter Sunday. She states he had a seizure which led to a heart attack and that's how he passed............
LIFE IS SHORT! APPRECIATED IT
LIFE IS SHORT! APPRECIATED IT
Sunday, April 19, 2009
The Adventures of Dating ME!
So lately there has been a reoccurring theme in my life. MENTAL ILLNESS........from the video of the mentally ill woman on the Marta train to the weird lady at the bus stop on Friday morning telling me that she lost weight by becoming a communist...WTF
This theme has now entered my dating life. I mean I realize that the majority of us are damaged goods.....we carry with us emotional scars of our lovers past. But many of us try and not allow the events of our past dictate the future of our present!
So the last blog regarding the adventures of dating me was a quote from a T.I. song and so this blog is directly related to that person. In previous blogs I mentioned that I would prefer a man to have the three C's. Those C's are without a doubt material things. And by no means do I believe that material things make the man. The man makes those things. Because let's face it a Dick is a Dick and even if he has the three C's plus some. He's still a Dick, just a Dick with THINGS..........
So I met a guy and we began the process of getting to know each other, however the last time we spent together I felt like I was visiting the psych ward in the hospital. There were definitely some mental health issues with this dude. Clearly, he is damaged goods, a little traumatized, and so on and so forth. He lacked confidence, was not assertive, and I pretty much ascertained that he didn't know what in the world to do with me.
So that's that......Mental illness is real and people need help....
This experience with ole crazy has turned me off a little. I'm highly considering hanging up my dating jersey for a while. Cause I can't deal with dudes dropping off and dying, or being insane. Too many traumatic experiences in a short amount of time.......I don't wanna have dating PTSD and end up chasing away all that try to enter my world.
..........sigh...
This theme has now entered my dating life. I mean I realize that the majority of us are damaged goods.....we carry with us emotional scars of our lovers past. But many of us try and not allow the events of our past dictate the future of our present!
So the last blog regarding the adventures of dating me was a quote from a T.I. song and so this blog is directly related to that person. In previous blogs I mentioned that I would prefer a man to have the three C's. Those C's are without a doubt material things. And by no means do I believe that material things make the man. The man makes those things. Because let's face it a Dick is a Dick and even if he has the three C's plus some. He's still a Dick, just a Dick with THINGS..........
So I met a guy and we began the process of getting to know each other, however the last time we spent together I felt like I was visiting the psych ward in the hospital. There were definitely some mental health issues with this dude. Clearly, he is damaged goods, a little traumatized, and so on and so forth. He lacked confidence, was not assertive, and I pretty much ascertained that he didn't know what in the world to do with me.
So that's that......Mental illness is real and people need help....
This experience with ole crazy has turned me off a little. I'm highly considering hanging up my dating jersey for a while. Cause I can't deal with dudes dropping off and dying, or being insane. Too many traumatic experiences in a short amount of time.......I don't wanna have dating PTSD and end up chasing away all that try to enter my world.
..........sigh...
Friday, April 17, 2009
The Adventures of Dating ME!
" What's haapnin'? All you haters
'Cause I hear you, and am watchin'
But I'm still here, I ain't stoppin'
So what up, what's haapnin'?
All you haters, Can get at me
'Cause I hear you, and am watchin'
But am serious Haters, so all I got to say is WHAT UP!?"
'Cause I hear you, and am watchin'
But I'm still here, I ain't stoppin'
So what up, what's haapnin'?
All you haters, Can get at me
'Cause I hear you, and am watchin'
But am serious Haters, so all I got to say is WHAT UP!?"
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
The Adventures of Dating ME!
I have finally allowed the youngin' to take me out this weekend........after much hesitation!
We'll see..............
We'll see..............
The Adventures of Dating ME!
It is never okay for you to live with your mama and not have a car!
sigh...........
Please, please, please, have the three C's
Career (or job)
Car
Crib
sigh...........
Please, please, please, have the three C's
Career (or job)
Car
Crib
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
A moment of silence.....
I live in Maryland and work in DC. So to cut my commute time and cost down I drive and park on the street and then catch a bus to the job. For the past two months when I get off the bus to get into my car after work I am greeted by a warm and friendly gentleman by the name of Mel.
Mel initiated conversation by introducing himself and asking what my name was. Our meetings were usually brief but pleasant. One day he asked if he could take me out, and I explained to him that I was seeing someone. He began to explain that he didn't want anything but to spend some time and see me smile. He still wanted to know if he could maybe take me to dinner or something. I told him I would let him know.
Yet and still every day after work he would be sitting on the stoop at his relatives house waiting for me to get off work. He would remind me that he wanted to take me to dinner and that he was still waiting for my reply. He would also remind me that I was beautiful and that the person I am seeing better be treating me right.
As time went by I started to know more and more about Mel. He spoke of his daughter, his job, his life, his goals, and dreams. He would always inquire about my day at work, how my son was, and make sure that I was happy.
About a month ago Mel greeted me with his arm in a sling, I inquired about what happened. He explained that he had a seizure and broke his arm. He mentioned that he never had a seizure before. He went on to tell me that he was in the process of suing Howard Medical Center because when he arrived there they treated his arm but not his seizure. Mel stated that because he never had a seizure before and has no diagnosis of a seizure disorder the hospital should have given him some medication to treat the seizure because "I could have a seizure in my sleep and die". We would joke about him winning his lawsuit and going on a trip somewhere first class, sippin on champagne! LOL
About two weeks ago I finally allowed Mel to take me out. We just grabbed a bite to eat before I was due to pick up my son from daycare. This became a regular practice since then.
On Wednesday 04/08/09 while we were conversing I told Mel that I had these yellow shoes I couldn't wait to wear with this yellow dress. Mel said that he wanted to see me in the dress and shoes, so he wanted to pay for me to get my nails and toes done on Friday 04/10/09.
So Friday comes we both leave work early, however, traffic was not on our side. By the time we meet up it's too late to sit at the nail shop, so he gives me money to get my nails done and tells me he wants to see my "pretty toes" on Monday.
Friday night I went out of town to Hampton University to visit some sorority sisters. We spoke, I wished him a early "Happy Birthday" (His birthday was on Easter Sunday and his 2 year old daughter was scheduled to be dedicated to the Lord that day as well). Saturday he called me and I was at the nail shop getting my nails done, he said he wanted to see me when I returned and to call him when I got back to Maryland..............
That was the last we spoke..........
Monday after work I wondered why I didn't see him to show of my nice pedicured feet.
Today, Tuesday, as I am waiting for the bus to go into work and one of Mel's friends approaches me and says "you know Mel right?"
I said "Yeah, (with a super big smile on my face)"
He said "You know he passed right?"
I said "WHAT? No I didn't, when?"
He said "He passed on Sunday"
I said "What happened?"
He said "He had a seizure in his sleep and died!"
WTF, WTF, WTF, WTF........................... He died on Easter Sunday, his birthday!
I've been so sad, crying, and feeling so angry! I keep seeing his smiling face, and hearing his voice and all I can think about is "He never got to see my 'pretty toes'"
So a moment of silence for my friend MEL!
Peace Homie!
Mel initiated conversation by introducing himself and asking what my name was. Our meetings were usually brief but pleasant. One day he asked if he could take me out, and I explained to him that I was seeing someone. He began to explain that he didn't want anything but to spend some time and see me smile. He still wanted to know if he could maybe take me to dinner or something. I told him I would let him know.
Yet and still every day after work he would be sitting on the stoop at his relatives house waiting for me to get off work. He would remind me that he wanted to take me to dinner and that he was still waiting for my reply. He would also remind me that I was beautiful and that the person I am seeing better be treating me right.
As time went by I started to know more and more about Mel. He spoke of his daughter, his job, his life, his goals, and dreams. He would always inquire about my day at work, how my son was, and make sure that I was happy.
About a month ago Mel greeted me with his arm in a sling, I inquired about what happened. He explained that he had a seizure and broke his arm. He mentioned that he never had a seizure before. He went on to tell me that he was in the process of suing Howard Medical Center because when he arrived there they treated his arm but not his seizure. Mel stated that because he never had a seizure before and has no diagnosis of a seizure disorder the hospital should have given him some medication to treat the seizure because "I could have a seizure in my sleep and die". We would joke about him winning his lawsuit and going on a trip somewhere first class, sippin on champagne! LOL
About two weeks ago I finally allowed Mel to take me out. We just grabbed a bite to eat before I was due to pick up my son from daycare. This became a regular practice since then.
On Wednesday 04/08/09 while we were conversing I told Mel that I had these yellow shoes I couldn't wait to wear with this yellow dress. Mel said that he wanted to see me in the dress and shoes, so he wanted to pay for me to get my nails and toes done on Friday 04/10/09.
So Friday comes we both leave work early, however, traffic was not on our side. By the time we meet up it's too late to sit at the nail shop, so he gives me money to get my nails done and tells me he wants to see my "pretty toes" on Monday.
Friday night I went out of town to Hampton University to visit some sorority sisters. We spoke, I wished him a early "Happy Birthday" (His birthday was on Easter Sunday and his 2 year old daughter was scheduled to be dedicated to the Lord that day as well). Saturday he called me and I was at the nail shop getting my nails done, he said he wanted to see me when I returned and to call him when I got back to Maryland..............
That was the last we spoke..........
Monday after work I wondered why I didn't see him to show of my nice pedicured feet.
Today, Tuesday, as I am waiting for the bus to go into work and one of Mel's friends approaches me and says "you know Mel right?"
I said "Yeah, (with a super big smile on my face)"
He said "You know he passed right?"
I said "WHAT? No I didn't, when?"
He said "He passed on Sunday"
I said "What happened?"
He said "He had a seizure in his sleep and died!"
WTF, WTF, WTF, WTF........................... He died on Easter Sunday, his birthday!
I've been so sad, crying, and feeling so angry! I keep seeing his smiling face, and hearing his voice and all I can think about is "He never got to see my 'pretty toes'"
So a moment of silence for my friend MEL!
Peace Homie!
Monday, April 13, 2009
The adventures of dating ME!
It's officially Spring! I feel like singing "I'm coming out.....I want the world to know...."
I'm coming out of this winter sweater wearing, coat covering, boots to my knees rocking state and I'm showing skin, toes, and cleavage........ahhhhh....
my comfort zone.......
Moving to the DC metro area from Las Vegas, NV is a big change. I mean all my shoes are open toe, all my clothes are short, showing skin, strap-less, back-less, or some "-less" and I finally can shimmy into them.
Now some things are a little tight on ya girl, cause she gained a few pounds since moving here. But if you read my previous blog, I'm trying to do something about that!
So anyway with the degrees going higher and the days lasting longer I am excited and ready to break out of my shell.
I mean this is chocolate city, and I love chocolate, so I'm ready to dive in and see what I can see!
In saying all that, I ready to get my flirt on, my date on, and my grown woman on! I've already began to do a little in the winter, but nothing substantial.
I'm ready to meet a three piece suit wearing, career havin', head on shoulders, grown ASS man! I am not 19 anymore I am tired of playin with boys!
So stay tuned as I chronicle my dating life, without puttin all the bid-ness out there!
So let's begin.........Of course when I first got here I ran into "boys" I even entertained myself with a couple, but I knew from jump street that this was very temporary, just to pass the time and possibly learn the city.
So recently I met a "man" ya'll a real man..........has a career, not into anything illegal (thank God, do you know that it is hard to find a man not into illegal activities), is smart (we have stimulating convo), and makes me laugh! WOW right...
So we hung out for the first time this weekend, it was very brief, but nice. He was such a gentleman! We'll see what happens next!
I'm coming out of this winter sweater wearing, coat covering, boots to my knees rocking state and I'm showing skin, toes, and cleavage........ahhhhh....
my comfort zone.......
Moving to the DC metro area from Las Vegas, NV is a big change. I mean all my shoes are open toe, all my clothes are short, showing skin, strap-less, back-less, or some "-less" and I finally can shimmy into them.
Now some things are a little tight on ya girl, cause she gained a few pounds since moving here. But if you read my previous blog, I'm trying to do something about that!
So anyway with the degrees going higher and the days lasting longer I am excited and ready to break out of my shell.
I mean this is chocolate city, and I love chocolate, so I'm ready to dive in and see what I can see!
In saying all that, I ready to get my flirt on, my date on, and my grown woman on! I've already began to do a little in the winter, but nothing substantial.
I'm ready to meet a three piece suit wearing, career havin', head on shoulders, grown ASS man! I am not 19 anymore I am tired of playin with boys!
So stay tuned as I chronicle my dating life, without puttin all the bid-ness out there!
So let's begin.........Of course when I first got here I ran into "boys" I even entertained myself with a couple, but I knew from jump street that this was very temporary, just to pass the time and possibly learn the city.
So recently I met a "man" ya'll a real man..........has a career, not into anything illegal (thank God, do you know that it is hard to find a man not into illegal activities), is smart (we have stimulating convo), and makes me laugh! WOW right...
So we hung out for the first time this weekend, it was very brief, but nice. He was such a gentleman! We'll see what happens next!
A new Day
I am constantly trying to reinvent myself. Every other week I try to make myself "new and improved." Anyway I want to shed a couple of pounds to look even more fabulous in the summer. Today is the first day of my eating "lifestyle change." We all know diets are a temporary fix. Change isn't lasting unless you change the way you think/behave. So you can diet it up, drop down to a single digit size, but soon as you go back to doing things the way you used to, then you get back to where you used to be.
So I'm trying some new things out. I'm trying to cut back on my carb intake. I love breads, pastas, rice, and all the other shit that turns to sugar in your body. So I'm working on cutting that back, making my portion sizes smaller and eating more often. I usually binge eat, eat very little all day, then throw down at 9pm. Or not eat too much for a couple of days, then go to town on food, so my body has no clue what's going on and I am sure I have slowed my metabolism.
When a woman gets to be 30 her metabolism slows down drastically anyway. So I have 2years to get it together. I need to get my ass in shape!
So far so good, I'm excited about this new change and I hope that it will be a lasting change. Let me get down to a single digit size........oh boy there will be trouble! Trouble! Trouble!
I figure losing a good 30lbs will do me right! Wish me luck, and I'll keep you posted!
So I'm trying some new things out. I'm trying to cut back on my carb intake. I love breads, pastas, rice, and all the other shit that turns to sugar in your body. So I'm working on cutting that back, making my portion sizes smaller and eating more often. I usually binge eat, eat very little all day, then throw down at 9pm. Or not eat too much for a couple of days, then go to town on food, so my body has no clue what's going on and I am sure I have slowed my metabolism.
When a woman gets to be 30 her metabolism slows down drastically anyway. So I have 2years to get it together. I need to get my ass in shape!
So far so good, I'm excited about this new change and I hope that it will be a lasting change. Let me get down to a single digit size........oh boy there will be trouble! Trouble! Trouble!
I figure losing a good 30lbs will do me right! Wish me luck, and I'll keep you posted!
Friday, April 3, 2009
How about a slice of Humble Pie?
Some recent events that have occured in my life and those around me has me really grateful that I live my life the way I do. We are responsible for all of our actions and how those actions affect others. Usually we are only concerned with our present actions, and disregard our past ones. I mean it was in the past. But sometimes the Karma train doesn't run on time and we get slapped in the face with our concequences waaaaaay later in the future.
I will admit that when unfortunate things happen to me I ponder "what did I do in the past to deserve this" Usually I find something, and I say "Well I guess that's what I get for........." I'm not closed minded though. I do believe that sometimes things happen not because of something I've done but becuase of something else. I tend to believe that there are no accidents. Things happen for a reason. And sometimes that reason is just to teach us a lesson and sometimes the lesson isn't for us but maybe for someone else. Sometimes it takes a major unfortunate event for us to learn an important lesson. For example.....maybe your home gets invaded, for you to learn to LOCK YOUR DAMN DOOR! I'm just saying.
So let me tell you a story about how important it is to treat people well.....
Guy meets Girl
Guy and Girl begin to talk
Guy and Girl begin to like each other
they develop a routine of speaking daily, "good morning" text messages and phone calls (I love those)
and yep Guy and Girl even begin to have relations!
Guy seems a bit selfish, he states that it is a result of past relationships
Girl hopes that things will be different, after all she isn't selfish
Girl begins to show Guy that she is really there for him, she's really on his team, desires to be first string
Guy is really digging girl, is considering her for a starting position
Girl comes through for Guy when he needs her, shows him rather than tells him how she feels for/about him
Guy still displays some selfish, petty, behavior
Girl starts to think this isn't going to work
Girl decides to tell Guy to kick rocks, she can't deal with the selfishness
Guy realizes that Girl is worth keeping and is feeling like he may need to change things to get her back
Guy pleads with Girl to give "them" another chance
Girl agrees
They continue on their journey, however, Guy is still just as selfish and petty
Girl feels like she's constantly doing things and not getting any reciprocity
Yesterday Guy has committed a fatal relationship act
That's it Girl is done, it's a wrap, as a matter of fact Girl has choosen to cease all communication with Guy. She feels he has used her as his toilet long enough
She can do bad all by herself
Today Guy finds out that some of his past actions in Jan 08 have caught up to him and now the pigs have a warrant for his arrest.
Oh no! Guy now is trying to apologize to Girl, get back in her good graces so in case he has to go away for a while, he'll have a pen pal and someone to hold him down.
Girl accepts his apology but refuses to write or visit. Will not see Guy before he turns himself in or nothing...............
What a dummie right? I mean he totally shitted on her yesterday and now he regrets that. But the damage is done now, no way to unwind what has been wound.
Now this guy is a friend of mine, but in this situation I can not side with him. I've seen the way he has treated, not only her, but other people. And now that he's in a bind, he's trying to cross the bridges that he's burned. It's too late now.
I've totally taken HIS lesson to heart. I started looking back and examining the way I've treated people. Truthfully I don't ever want to be in his position or feel what he is feeling. I mean I haven't done any criminal activity so it's not like I'll be sitting in a cell or anything. But I just don't want Karma to slap my ass in the face like that.
I keep thinking that if he would've never did what he did yesterday then he would have someone there by his side while he navigates through this tumultuous time.
The moral of the story boys and girls:
TREAT PEOPLE THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED BECUASE ONE DAY YOU MIGHT REGRET HOW YOU HAVE TREATED SOMEONE.
I will admit that when unfortunate things happen to me I ponder "what did I do in the past to deserve this" Usually I find something, and I say "Well I guess that's what I get for........." I'm not closed minded though. I do believe that sometimes things happen not because of something I've done but becuase of something else. I tend to believe that there are no accidents. Things happen for a reason. And sometimes that reason is just to teach us a lesson and sometimes the lesson isn't for us but maybe for someone else. Sometimes it takes a major unfortunate event for us to learn an important lesson. For example.....maybe your home gets invaded, for you to learn to LOCK YOUR DAMN DOOR! I'm just saying.
So let me tell you a story about how important it is to treat people well.....
Guy meets Girl
Guy and Girl begin to talk
Guy and Girl begin to like each other
they develop a routine of speaking daily, "good morning" text messages and phone calls (I love those)
and yep Guy and Girl even begin to have relations!
Guy seems a bit selfish, he states that it is a result of past relationships
Girl hopes that things will be different, after all she isn't selfish
Girl begins to show Guy that she is really there for him, she's really on his team, desires to be first string
Guy is really digging girl, is considering her for a starting position
Girl comes through for Guy when he needs her, shows him rather than tells him how she feels for/about him
Guy still displays some selfish, petty, behavior
Girl starts to think this isn't going to work
Girl decides to tell Guy to kick rocks, she can't deal with the selfishness
Guy realizes that Girl is worth keeping and is feeling like he may need to change things to get her back
Guy pleads with Girl to give "them" another chance
Girl agrees
They continue on their journey, however, Guy is still just as selfish and petty
Girl feels like she's constantly doing things and not getting any reciprocity
Yesterday Guy has committed a fatal relationship act
That's it Girl is done, it's a wrap, as a matter of fact Girl has choosen to cease all communication with Guy. She feels he has used her as his toilet long enough
She can do bad all by herself
Today Guy finds out that some of his past actions in Jan 08 have caught up to him and now the pigs have a warrant for his arrest.
Oh no! Guy now is trying to apologize to Girl, get back in her good graces so in case he has to go away for a while, he'll have a pen pal and someone to hold him down.
Girl accepts his apology but refuses to write or visit. Will not see Guy before he turns himself in or nothing...............
What a dummie right? I mean he totally shitted on her yesterday and now he regrets that. But the damage is done now, no way to unwind what has been wound.
Now this guy is a friend of mine, but in this situation I can not side with him. I've seen the way he has treated, not only her, but other people. And now that he's in a bind, he's trying to cross the bridges that he's burned. It's too late now.
I've totally taken HIS lesson to heart. I started looking back and examining the way I've treated people. Truthfully I don't ever want to be in his position or feel what he is feeling. I mean I haven't done any criminal activity so it's not like I'll be sitting in a cell or anything. But I just don't want Karma to slap my ass in the face like that.
I keep thinking that if he would've never did what he did yesterday then he would have someone there by his side while he navigates through this tumultuous time.
The moral of the story boys and girls:
TREAT PEOPLE THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED BECUASE ONE DAY YOU MIGHT REGRET HOW YOU HAVE TREATED SOMEONE.
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